Your little one is now here, snuggled up between you. You're overjoyed parents. But what about your love life? Don't worry. A little patience and a few simple tips are all it takes to rekindle the flame!
1/ Give yourself some time
For all couples, the birth of a baby is experienced as both immense joy and a real upheaval in their life together. You feel Tired and lacking desire for your partner? That's perfectly normal! Your body has just undergone intense hormonal changes, and you're overwhelmed by your new role as a new mother. And keep in mind that, to some extent, your partner is also suffering from the sleepless nights the baby isn't sleeping through yet!
While some couples resume their sex life just days after giving birth, most wait 6 to 12 weeks. Experts say there's no need to worry as long as the absence of sex doesn't exceed 6 months. Without necessarily reaching that point, take the time to rest, pamper yourselves, and organize your life as new parents. After that, your relationship will be back on track, don't worry!
2/ As soon as possible, escape with your sweetheart
As you well know, routine isn't the best thing for a relationship. Once you've established a new rhythm of life with your baby and found your bearings... get off the beaten track! Have your parents or friends offered to look after your little one so you can enjoy an evening or even a weekend away together? Don't hesitate, say yes!
And if the suggestion isn't made spontaneously, make the first move. Meet up at a bar to share tapas, challenge each other to a sand yachting session, or arrange a secret rendezvous at a museum or inn... it doesn't matter as long as you regularly break out of your daily routine! Lightheartedness and spontaneity are essential to revitalize and strengthen your relationship.
3/ Awaken your senses
The notion of "marital duty," not for you? All the better! Despite the fatigue and lack of time, the post-baby period is indeed always an excellent time to explore other avenues of lovemaking. You are a happy new couple, you feel good in your new mother's body again, your little one needs you a little less at night... take advantage of this bliss to create surprises and awaken your senses! A simple, elegant, impromptu dinner (and not waiting for Saturday night) is often the prelude to a passionate reunion... A softly lit setting that caresses bodies immediately ignites desire, just as the massage with fragrant oil is unparalleled in setting the senses of touch and smell ablaze with pleasure... It's up to each couple to play the keys to their own sensuality.
4/ Distance yourself to find yourself again
Before the baby arrived, you each had your sports activities Or perhaps you're pursuing artistic pursuits, or seeing friends on your own? Don't cut yourself off from either of these little getaways. Not only are they essential for your well-being, but taking even a few hours away will only amplify the pleasure of being together as a couple. Of course, you'll want to make sure that the frequency of your solo escapes from the family nest is somewhat planned and balanced for both of you!
5/ Reinvent your family rituals
Of course, you're both grateful to your respective parents for being there, for helping you, for always being ready to look after your little one. But that doesn't mean you have to sacrifice that long Sunday lunch every week, which prevents you from relaxing in bed together, like you used to. Are you afraid of hurting your parents' feelings? Remember that they were a young couple once too... and are therefore perfectly capable of understanding your desires, provided you express them. Do you really have qualms? Suggest replacing some Sunday lunches with afternoon tea at 5 p.m. or a light dinner. The family will still be together, but the routine will be slightly disrupted, to everyone's delight!
